Friday, February 26, 2010
Man Selfish! Lol
I have always believed that no one was selfish till I started to notice it a lot more from many people. I learned from my parents not to be selfish because it is not going to get anywhere. It is in some ways true, it is good to be give to the people in need, it is good to post signs for a missing dog. But sometimes you have to be selfish. At times it can be hard and other times we just do not care, for me I am selfish in my own ways. I think about other people feelings and I think of how selfish I will be if I do not consider everyone feelings. About two years ago, I was with a guy for almost a year and he had everything going for him. He knew exactly what he wanted to do, and how he was going to go to a good school and make it so he can survive in a time where the economy was bad. Towards the end of our relationship, it will be argument after argument. Arguments about everything from being at a party to just saying the wrong thing. Arguments would be over the most pity thing. We had got into an argument about him actually getting into UC Davis. I remember he called me and he was super excited and I was being selfish about the whole thing. His happiness to go to UC Davis went elsewhere after he had talked to me. I started telling him about us seeing each other, if he will have time and many more things. We decided to be together but he would be living in dorms. I did not like that too much. I did not realize how selfish I was being till I started to really think about. The only way to stop being selfish was to let him do what he had to do. He had to go to school and I had to stop being so selfish. I was bringing him down and as much as I did not want to let him go, I had to know I had to. I felt as if this guy was doing so much and he did not need any my selfishness. He needed someone to support him and all he does. I was not helping at all. After that event, I decided to change my ways, I have learned to be supportive and also not be selfish. My lesson was well learned after that.
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As a child I was also taught to not be selfish and share my belongings. I grew up knowing how not to be selfish towards my siblings, my family and friends. But when I was in elementary school I started to become more aware that you cant always share with everyone, especially with people I didn’t know. Still till this day I don’t fully share or give my belonging to strangers. An example is I never give money to pan handlers anymore. But I know people that give even if they dont have enough for themselves. I also think sometimes it’s good to be a little selfish for yourself. It can help you get ahead in certain things. But when it comes to family I always help when they sometimes ask for assistance in child care, moving things, or advice.
ReplyDeleteAs you talked about in your blog, I can relate to your story of letting your boyfriend go. One of my girl acquaintances in high school acted the same way when I was going to move out here. But she wasn’t as willing to let me go as you were to your boyfriend. But it was good that you realized what was going on, and also we are way to young to be that tied down.